Easy Tips to Kick Start Your Marriage

When adult life gets in the way, it can be easy to put less effort into your relationship with your husband or wife. From housework and childcare to work commitments and family plans, the pressures of everyday life can quickly have an impact on a marriage.

If you have noticed that you are starting to lose the spark that you once had with your partner, it’s time to break the cycle and get your excitement back! As much as it is normal to experience ups and downs in a marriage, kickstarting doesn’t have to take much effort and can be as little as small gestures which are made every day.

1. Make time for fun

As silly as it may sound, many people find that their busy lifestyles mean any source of fun is cut out first. As a couple, discuss what you want to do together and make sure to free up time in your calendars. Whether its spending an hour each evening going for a stroll in the park, watching your favourite TV show together, or cooking a handmade meal for you to enjoy, uninterrupted quality time is exactly what you may need. As well as the smaller things, decide on how frequently you can allocate date nights, whether its fortnightly or monthly, and plan an exciting activity for you both enjoy together.

2. Keep the intimacy alive

During sex, a hormone called oxytocin is released which is also known as the bonding hormone. This is a great way to maintain that close connection and really maintain your intimacy levels, pleasuring each other’s bodies. Sex is another area which is easy to cut out when you’re feeling tired or stressed, but it is a powerful thing which can really hold together a marriage. If you’ve found yourself in the same repetitive routine every time you head under the sheets, introduce some new sex toys into the mix. For beginners, vibrators is a great place to start, or if you’re feeling more adventurous, try out BSDSM restraints.

3. Understand each other

Your husband or wife should be the one person you can go to in your time of need, always having each other’s backs. As much as you need their support, it is important to be empathetic of their emotions too, taking the time to understand how they are feeling. Respect, empathy, and trust are huge factors in a marriage so ensuring that you are meeting each other’s basic needs and providing the support they need will help you stay strong as a pair. Communication is another base level trait which needs to be maintained, saying what is on your mind, both positive and negative. Verbalising any issues, you have will mean you can talk through any problems and resolve them, working on anything you could improve going forward. By having this level of respect for each other, a marriage is proven much more likely to succeed as you come together to improve.